Loneliness doesn’t want you to know the truth, specifically: The Truth about Marriage and Singleness. Loneliness wins when married people and single people covet oneanother’s lifestyles. The truth of the matter is that both marriage and singleness are hard; whether you are dealing with the anxieties of marriage as Paul describes in 1 Corinthians 7 or living in the reality that every responsibility of life falls directly on your shoulders. Marriage is difficult. Singleness is difficult.
Another truth that Loneliness doesn’t want us to know about marriage and singleness is that both are gifts. Paul, speaking to the church of Corinth about marriage and singleness, says that everyone has been given a gift from God.
“Only let each person lead the life the Lord has assigned to him, and to which God has called him.” – 1 Corinthians 7:17
Live your life that God has given to you, as it is a gift. This doesn’t mean we can’t ask our Father for additional gifts. It doesn’t mean we can’t desire marriage if we are unmarried. It doesn’t mean we can’t desire for our marriage to grow and be better; but it does fundamentally require that we believe God has gifted us the very life we have. Loneliness would rather you be distracted, looking at other people’s gifts, than fully living the life that God has gifted you.
A third truth that Loneliness would be horrified if we knew, is that both marriage and singleness are temporary. As Jesus says in Matthew, “For in the resurrection they [people] neither marry nor are given in marriage but are like angels in heaven.” In the end, we are the Bride of Jesus, and some day we will all have an amazing wedding.
For the lonely, whether married or unmarried, Loneliness wants you to roll your eyes at these truths.
Loneliness wants nothing more than for you to see this future reality and write it off as unsatisfactory Biblical metaphor that doesn’t offer enough intimacy or reality to make any difference to the way you view your life today.
With the assistance of community, remember that in Jesus you are not isolated, minimized, unknown, or lost; but instead you are invited, exalted, known, and found.